You’re going to feel guilty

You’re going to feel guilty

The guilty feeling associated with desire, with going after what you want, with transforming….you know that feeling? It’s like tar on your mojo. Maybe you were raised in an environment where desire was considered a negative thing. Or your social circle constantly reinforces the message that you shouldn’t dare to bust out. And maybe you frequently feel guilty for wanting what you want — and you know that it’s causing blocks in your life…

D Digest: Sisterhood, thoughts on infidelity [VIDEO] and admitting when it sucks. My May roundup!

D Digest: Sisterhood, thoughts on infidelity [VIDEO] and admitting when it sucks. My May roundup!

Infidelity, sisterhood, and self-respect either way. #Lemonade and Love. I’ve got a lot of thoughts about infidelity in particular — which is at the heart of Lemonade. In committed relationships you bleed, you sweat, you change. You contort, love, fuck, and devote to...
D Digest: Recovering from self-help exhaustion, crazy expectations of others, and how being gentle creates very big breakthroughs. The March roundup!

D Digest: Recovering from self-help exhaustion, crazy expectations of others, and how being gentle creates very big breakthroughs. The March roundup!

How gentleness creates the big breakthrough The most powerful pain remedy, elixir, solution, galvanizer, waker-upper, injection of strength is…gentleness. When you’re hammering yourself for being in pain again, gentleness is actually a breakthrough. 6 opinions on...
D Digest: Feelings as fuel, fighting for joy + breaking through pain. February roundup is in!

D Digest: Feelings as fuel, fighting for joy + breaking through pain. February roundup is in!

How to not give a shit (even though you really do) and be kind about it all. Not easy. But really, totally necessary. What I know for sure is that my ability to be (relatively) okay with the discomfort of boundaries — of self respect — is why I have the life I want,...