From celebration to devastation, who can you call at 2 a.m.?
We’ve decided that being able to call someone at 2am is our new metric of love… Treasured, indispensable, no matter what, sacred circle….
The first thing to say to a friend in need.
Well, that sucks. That’s the very first place to start. Sympathy is a healer, it coagulates the bleeding. It won’t drag them down if you validate their pain. It doesn’t mean you condone how they got into the pickle, or the fact that they may be bitching about the same chump after seven years, or that they done gone did it again — or any of that fairly useless judgement and assessing…
Eventually, you have to stop blaming your parents.
A shrink friend of mine said the most common pattern he saw in human behavior was that people didn’t start really living until their parents died. That’s a lot of lives only one third lived. That plague-of-a-condition stymies us from breakthroughs and realizing astoundingly positive possibilities for humankind. It’s that serious…
How to Start a Mastermind Group. Jen Louden + I Jam on the Power of Your People.
Everything I’ve accomplished has had inner circle support – sleeves-rolled up kind of support. No secrets, soul-bared, nuts and bolts hashing it out. Late nights in living rooms, emergency cellphone calls on street corners. Power advice by texts. Three-day retreats with coloured pens, calendars out and red wine. You get the idea….
The Incremental Commitment Formula. Realistic Give ‘n Take.
One-step-at-a-time commitment creates traction. It’s about being responsive to reality — it gives you leeway for mutual accountability, for prerogatives to be exercised, and for the self-motivated players to motivate themselves…. and THAT’S something you can commit to.
What’s your favourite piece of advice that you’ve been given?
When you wonder if today’s “problems” actually have enough gravity to be on your shoulders in three years time, you lighten up. And fast.
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